Homosexual vs Heterosexual couples: what the statistics say

4 Mar

Today’s article is essentially a re-blogging of an interesting article I found on this site.


“…what’s the reason for opposing this again?” says moveon.org, promoting a video in which gay marriage is defended by Zach Wahls, a man raised by two lesbians:

My first reaction is one of happiness. The fact that this individual came out healthier and happier and seemingly much more normal than most human beings deserves some thanksgiving. After all, his family scenario isn’t the likely scenario within the gay community. First of all, few gay relationships achieve the longevity of heterosexual relationships. Not to say that anybody’s doing great at the “maintaining relationships” thing, but the gay community is doing particularly terribly. Here are the poor, unfaithful straight-people statistics:

National Center for Health Statistics, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (2001)

And here are the poor, unfaithful gay-people statistics:

Source: 2003-2004 Gay/Lesbian Consumer Online Census

Compare and contrast. Granted, this isn’t a direct comparison. I suppose it could be argued “but if gays could marry, they would be more faithful.” But this flies in the face of the whole argument for gay marriage, that marriage isn’t some sacred sacrament, but something (who knows what) that people just “do” when they love each other. To which I only respond with a Barack Obama look: It can either be a institution that by its very nature helps make its partakers be more faithful, or it is an institution that doesn’t actually mean anything and thus should be opened to everyone. It cannot be both. And besides, if homosexuals and lesbians truly desired the same kind of commitment signified by marriage, then one would expect them to take advantage of the opportunity to enter into civil unions or registered partnerships which grant them legal recognition as well as the legal rights of marriage. By and large, they don’t.

U.S. Census Bureau, Married-Couple and Unmarried-Partner Households: 2000, 2; Black, “Demographics,” 141; U.S. Census Bureau Census 2000 Summary File 1; Bayles, “Vermont’s Gay Civil Unions,” 1; Census 2000 Special Reports, 4; Shane, “Many Swedes Say ‘I Don’t,'” 1; “ORL Backgrounder,” 1.

The Netherlands is a pretty good example of what I’m talking about. Same-sex marriage is legalized, and pitifully few get married. Why? Marriage seems to make couples more faithful, right? But then again, this all makes sense given the statistics on gay fidelity:

Laumann, The Social Organization of Sexuality, 216; McWhirter and Mattison, The Male Couple: How Relationships Develop (1984): 252-253; Wiederman, “Extramarital Sex,” 170.

This is not make any judgment. Fidelity is not often expressed as a virtue to beginwith amongst homosexuals, and I also grant that — in my own experience — lesbians have exhibited much greater fidelity, though I cannot find any reliable statistics proving it. No, this is simply to point out that an ideal, “it’s just like the straight folk!” marriage, the one exhibited so eloquently in the video, just isn’t very likely. For instance, partner abuse is much more likely in a gay relationship, especially a lesbian one:

“Extent, Nature, and Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence,” U.S. Department of Justice: Office of Justice Programs, 30.

We now know that “children of married couples are more likely to do well at school, in academic and social terms, than children of cohabiting heterosexual and homosexual couples.” (Sotirios Sarantakos, a sociologist, in the journal Children Australia, came to this conclusion after studying “a sample of 174 primary school children living in three different types of families…58 children of heterosexual cohabiting couples, 58 children of heterosexual married couples and 58 children of homosexual (47 lesbian and 11 gay couples.”)

I don’t point out all this to condemn, only to show that speech given was essentially an emotional appeal based on a singular example. Zach Wahls says there exists no difference between homosexual marriages and heterosexual marriages. Statistics seem to suggest otherwise. Choose now whom you will believe. Given our current level of rationality and thought, I’ve no doubt the video — at over a million views now — will convert many compassionate, well-intentioned young people to the cause. But it is false advertising, and I — though I wish for the sake of the children of gay marriages that I could  – simply don’t buy it.”




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